The physical of oneline dating
The longer we know each other, the less important physical attractiveness becomes to beginning and maintaining a long-term relationship (Hunt et al., 2015). The preferred traits of mates in a cross-national study of heterosexual and homosexual men and women: An examination of biological and cultural influences. Similarly, in Griffin and Langlois’ (2006) research, a lack of attractiveness was associated with negative qualities, but only a moderate level of attractiveness was necessary to make one's associations positive. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 94(2), 245–264. To interest us, then, potential mates do not need to be exceptionally attractive, only moderately so. Implicit and explicit preferences for physical attractiveness in a romantic partner: A double dissociation in predictive validity. Further, attractiveness tends to be a more important factor in our dating decisions than traits like personality, education, and intelligence (Eastwick et al., 2011; Eastwick and Finkel, 2008; Luo and Zhang, 2009; Kurzban and Weeden, 2005; Sprecher, 1989; Thao et al., 2010). (Mis)matching in physical attractiveness and women's resistance to mate guarding. Physical attractiveness may be so important to us because we associate other positive qualities with a pleasing appearance. Personality and Individual Differences, 87, 190-195. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 34(10), 1315–1331.
A few months ago I sat down with my friend Louise* while she scanned online dating profiles.
For example, attractive individuals are expected to be happier and to have more rewarding life experiences than unattractive individuals (Dion et al., 1972; Griffin and Langlois, 2006).
This tendency to associate attractiveness with positive qualities occurs crossculturally (Shaffer et al., 2000; Zebrowitz et al., 2012).
And looking for someone who shares a similar level of physical attractiveness to your own can enhance your long-term relationship success (Feingold, 1998; Fugère et al., 2015; more on matching in physical attractiveness in this post ). Journal of Marriage and the Family, 63(2), 491–503. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 24(3), 285–290.
But no matter our personal level of attractiveness, or our partner's, as we get to know, like, and respect each other more, our attraction naturally grows and deepens (Kniffin and Wilson, 2004). Parent–offspring conflict over mating: Domains of agreement and disagreement. doi:10.1111/j.1741-3737.2001.00491.x Dion, K., Berscheid, E., & Walster, E.
Louise told me that looks were not that important to her, but that a good sense of humor was a must.