We have been in a long-distance relationship the entire time. I've been trying to get him out here because I have a job I love, and he could easily get a job in his sector out here. Finding a job there wouldn't be easy since construction is not booming as much. Do I just give up my job, or keep trying to convince him to move? -- LONG-DISTANCE DATING DEAR LONG DISTANCE: I don't think you should give up a job you love in an environment you enjoy on the chance that this two-year relationship might become permanent. It's time to ask yourself whether you really want to tie your future to someone who prefers a different way of life.
His issue is that this area has "too many people and is too fast-paced" for him. Once you answer that question, you will know what to do.
Out of Sight is Not Necessarily Out of Mind The mind is a very powerful tool for remembrance, even though we can decided or drill our mind to accept and/or reject some memories whether good or bad. Decide if You’re Both Prepared for It It is important to discuss the issue because people have various thoughts about long-distance, while some believe it ‘cannot work’, others might argue to differ.
The fact still remains that we can trust our minds to take us back to all the good times. These memories often make us appreciate our partners, convince us of the things we miss the most about our partners and even give us more things to look forward to like the next time you would see your partner. In talking about it, you both should be realistic and talk about the possible things that can happen.
Still, there are lessons I have learnt and would keep learning and even though we hear the same rules over and over again.
It would make sense to tell you things that I think we know but still fall short of.
Do not get me wrong, it’s not like we didn’t know or ‘I’ believed it could be easy, but it’s one thing to be aware of something and another to experience it firsthand.
What are the ethics in the younger one having a "friend with benefits" to address those needs, if it's done discreetly without causing embarrassment and humiliation to the older spouse?